Your judging me for judging? Say what!?

It’s time for some spiritual and mental discussion as I promised in starting this blog. This issue could go in so many ways but I hope it speaks to you in one way or another in making a change with daily thoughts and judgments. I am not perfect and need daily correction but having an eternal mind set does help. I’m mainly speaking to those of us professing to follow after Jesus. Religion isn’t going to save me only Jesus paid that price, its all about the relationship for me. I am also speaking to those who have been judged by other religions because they can be the most judgmental of all. I think the problem is people are mixing judgment for accountability. Holding a person to their actions is not judging, but accountability which is what Godly people should do when each other fall under sin.

This does not mean gossiping behind each others back about each others sins. If you actually read the bible, then you know it says to talk to your fellow friend in Christ about their struggles in offering prayer and accountability towards them in overcoming that sin, not shouting it to the world! Now I haven’t had much problems with people spreading rumors about me because truth is there’s not much to say. Live a life where the preacher doesn’t have to tell lies at your funeral. But this behavior is a pet peeve of mine and the constant correction I have to do to people who are professing believers is becoming redundant.

Try seeing if these examples apply to you or a situation you were once in. I was talking to a friend one day over a couple who just starting dating. I knew nothing about the boy or girl’s behavior towards a relationship, but had nothing bad to say about them and only wished them the best. My friend on the other hand voiced how the girl was a wild child and needed a boy to ground her. Now in my head if you are able to make statements like that, then you must know this person on a different level with facts to back up your statement. This is usually not the case. I ask “why do you say she is a wild child?” The response was a long pause then a “I can just tell by looking at her.” SMH This then states anyone who looks different than you with colored hair, cloths, or make up is always a wild child…please just stop before I put you in your place.

Try giving people the benefit of the doubt, they may surprise you. My friend’s reaction to holding accountability on her words was that I was judging her for judging. No I was holding you accountable for your words, there is a difference. We have to remember what we perceive in life is not always truth. If you spread a rumor about a person and find out its not true then retract your statement to those you told so then the lie doesn’t grow. This kind of negative mind set is killing the Christian culture by making them out to break the own rules they profess to follow. I’m not about the Christian culture but the Jesus culture. Christian culture says you can go to church and only speak with other Christians in getting your free pass to heaven. This is false and without the Holy spirit working through you in making daily accountability changes to your life then you become an empty vessel allowing the world to fill you up instead.

Another situation I found myself in was with two ladies who were taking pictures for prom. There were several girls dressed up and waiting to take pictures. I was in a conversation were one parent and their child were looking at another girl’s dress and the mother voiced how her daughter’s dress is way prettier. What the? I step in and voiced to these people that I condemn any death spoken over that girl. I spoke life over the girl as having a pretty dress and every girl’s dress was lovely in its own way. I explained that there are no winners in comparing. If you compare yourself to a person as you are better than them, then you are putting them down and being creating un-humble thoughts of one self. If you compare yourself to a person as being better than you, then you creative negativity thoughts about one self. There are no winners we are all on different life journeys and should stick on our own paths instead of following others, otherwise you’ll end up as someone or somewhere your not meant to be. I could write many examples like these but I think you get the point.

My goal is to change the way people think about their roles as a Christian in judging as it was intended and how it’s being done. We are not the Judge, God is, we are only to guide and hold people accountable. Jesus said to go and sin no more. He challenged the religious on their beliefs but he didn’t beg them to follow him. Either you choose to be in the kingdom or not, but judging others will not make you closer to God. Realizing how much you have sinned and accepting God’s grace while sharing your new freedom will lead others to Christ. Once you have that accountability in your life with people you trust, then you know when they correct you out of love and their intentions are for you to grow spiritually not bring you down with judgment.

I love learning about different cultures and feel cultured in some respects. Learning about others can silence the voices of negativity that form over the unknown. I have many places to visit and conversations to have before I can be considered cultured but I go with this definition for right now. Being cultured means you have an open mind in that you make no facts in your head about a person who is different than you until you actually have a relationship with that person. All Christians do not act the same, all Muslims do not act the same, all Jews do not act the same and so on. This kind of thinking changes everyday decision for some people on how they live based on how others see fit instead of doing what they think is right. I for instance, like to wear a head wrap. My cultured fashion does not equal I’m a terrorist but that it was raining that day and nobody has time for that. There are many cultures that wear turbans for beliefs such as Sikhs. The key to building the kingdom is speaking life over each other and encouraging each other through life struggles while being accountable were it is due.